Say the words "gender war"to someone these days and likely you will get one of two reactions. Either they will look at you like you have just said something totally incomprehensible, as most people would have before the 1990s, or they will launch into a personal perspective on the battle lines, battlegrounds, and battle tactics which they have observed from personal experience. With each passing day, more people move from the first category into the second as they somehow become a casualty of this incomprehensible war.
And war it certainly has become.The older term for the essential conflicts between the interests and needs of men and women - the more benign "Battle of the Sexes" - has taken a mean and ugly turn. A wedge has been driven right down the middle of the human race which deprives the combatants of the only solace available to them in all other wars: respite from hostilities in the presence, or the arms, of someone they love.
As with any war, propaganda is being used to demonize the enemy. Men and women, who should be the most natural of allies because they have so much to offer each other that they both need, are instead seeing their interests as being mutually exclusive, not interdependent and complementary. The tragedy of this is beyond words.The tragedy is human loneliness, and the scope is almost universal.
Men, in general, have been slow to respond to all the terrible charges leveled against them. There have been many reasons for this. Foremost among these has been the difficulty which men have had in believing that so much of womankind would turn so thoroughly and viciously against them. Twenty-five years ago, no one could have predicted that the entirety of human history would be completely re-written by the time that the newborns of the day graduated from college. Or that the actions and lives of so many men, great and obscure, would be stripped of every shred of human decency and generosity and distorted into a world-wide and history long conspiracy of and by men to do nasty things to women - called "Patriarchy."
Like observers of the events leading up to each of the world wars, there were many of us who expected sanity to re-enter the dialogue at any time and the hostility and hatred to cease rather than continue to grow. In the end, we turned out to be just as foolish and naïve as those who put off joining the world wars until forced to do so. By the time we realized that THEY had declared war on US, it was too late to avoid it and we were left with no choice but to fight for the basic rights and freedoms in which we believed.
This "barely civil" civil-war has fragmented our culture and balkanized interest groups in a way that will take years for us to recover - if we can recover at all. As soldiers who fought the Japanese in the early 1940s had a very difficult time later adjusting to the idea of Asians as friends and neighbors, those of us who have lived out our entire adult lives in the midst of this war will likely not be able to heal from the wounds it has caused and be able to see our former enemies as anything other than enemies.
The Warning Label: 90 degrees from everywhere and the language ain’t pretty.
The Secret of Life: Shut Up and Shovel the Fuckin’ Gravel.
A Simple, Brief, Rationalist Alternative to Feminist Theory
The Nature of Things
In a Male Voice
Feminism Deconstructed – Nothing But a Hate Movement
Toward a Culture of Singleness
How It All Fell Apart
Equal Time: Tales of Offensive and Obnoxious Women
The Lies: Propaganda Used to Demonize a Non-Existent “Enemy”
The Rocky Road to True Equality
Double-THINK, Double, Triple and Quadruple Messages
”Can’t We All Just Get Along?” “Can’t We Just Go On A Date?”
The Chain of Violence
Rape and Sexual Harassment: The Pearl Harbor of the Gender War
The Sexual Harassment Battlefield
Masculism, Not Me-Too-ism
The Opening Shot: The S.C.U.M. Manifesto
The Hate Mongers
Presenting Feminism! A Coming Out
Man Hating and Man Bashing
The Feralization of Culture – Building Better Predators
Men, Are You Sick of It?
An Open Letter to Women
Turning Away from Women: Fish without Bicycles
Feminism Deconstructed - A Vast Social Deconstruction (Demolition) Project
False Premises, False Promises
The Ultimate Hypocrisy: An Alleged Movement for “Gender Equality” with a Gendered Name
The Nightmare of Feminism
Feminism in the Context of U.S. Social History, 1890-1999
Sexuality and Relationships
We live under many illusions about the nature of the world and relationships. There are a great many "shoulds" that many feel compelled to live up to. There is much made of the NEED for dishonesty and lies. All this is sadly untrue.
There are very few forums for a sane and healthy approach to sexuality. This wonderful net is filled with the commercial exploitation of unfilled sexual need. Anyone who stood back,without value judgements, and looked at the sheer volume of activity and $$$ spent would see the vast volume of it. Yet all that is "sold" here is the objectification of human beings. It is this objectification which is the disease of the industrial consuming society. Everything works best when everyone is an identical producing consuming consumed unit. Yet without individuality there is no passion.
Sexual Psychology – Part One – Working Class Heroes - Puberty
Sexual Psychology – Part Two – Puberty to 40
Sexual Psychology – Part Three – 40 to Closing Time
The Socio-Cultural Context of Sexuality and Marriage
The Biological Foundations of Sexuality
The Biological Context of Sexuality and Mating
The Nitty Gritty of Male Sexuality
Why Men Go For “The Look”
The Destruction of Little Girls’ Sexuality
Escape from the Dating Trap
The Rules are for Fools
The question of love has been much discussed throughout history. Several of the viewpoints I express will, no doubt, offend some people. Yet, no matter how much one hears or reads about love, it is only in the actual loving that one gets love's rewards.Many think that they want to be loved, but being loved is something that happens from the outside. It can't be felt, so the lovee still feels empty.Love is really a verb, not a noun. The lover is filled with love. All major religions have this somewhere in their teachings. Sexuality is NOT love. Sexuality is sexuality. It is mother nature's little trick for making surethere are more little species running around. Sexuality is a need, a drive,a hunger, and as such is not under conscious control. Loving well is the achievement of a mature spirit, and while it may have its elements of lust (from luster - to shine), passion, it is always creative, never destructive. Being destructive in the name of love is sacriledge which merits burning at the stake.
Tribute to My Mother
Love, the real kind
The Art of Loving
The Law of Thelema